Tuesday, February 24, 2009

When the day comes like an old cheesy after school special... that your child finally counts the months out and comes to the realization that maybe he was not a planned baby... what do you say? I see it in the immanent future and it flashes me back to a scene off a tv show, "I wasn't wanted, you didn't want me!" But that is the furthest thing from the truth, and how will I convey that... when that day comes? And who knows maybe he already knows, he's a smart boy, and maybe he has already counted the months and thought "hmm somethings fishy here?" But maybe not, how do I tell him how he is so loved, he is so thought about, he is the reason of all reasons that we are the happy family that we are today. That he just glued together a love that was already there. How do I keep him from thinking I'm the biggest hypocrite of them all? I've never really tried to hide the fact, but now it just feels like the big skeleton in the closet, waiting to fall right onto the floor and wiggle around until it's made a mess of things. So what are the rules in this situation?

5 comments:

Michelle said...

I think you just tell him exactly the things you just wrote, and yes, he's a smart boy. He'll be able to see that maybe originally it wasn't the ideal situation, but yours has become a wonderful, eternal family, and that is what matters most.

Anonymous said...

I bet he already knows. I agree with Michelle, I would tell him what you just wrote. He'll get it. He's a smart kid.

~C

Amie said...

boy...you got me! I think honesty is big here, but you need to wait until you're all 3 ready. =)

BrieP said...

Well tell me what happens so I know what to tell Madders when she figures it out. I have awhile but I think I am still just as worried about it.

leaner said...

Um, yes, I worry that maybe Rhayn will think she wasn't wanted when she realizes that SHE. WAS. AT. OUR. WEDDING. She was almost 2. No months to count out, nothing to hide.

How many of the oldest kids in our family are products of a night of passion before marriage? Think about it... its quite a few. And none of them is less loved than the ones who were born from a union of married folk.